There’s nothing moral or moralising going on here, it’s just boring tribe/mate-value signalling (specifically, the non-autists are seeing the autists do an autistic thing to find partners, and they’re loudly yelling “god I’d never fuck an autist” for the usual reasons).
And, like, yeah — I guess you could say “hey, if you’re not autistic just ignore it and let the autists do their thing?” — but it’s a bit like hearing a Red Sox fan say “God, Yankees cap, cringe” and telling her “If you don’t like the Yankees you’re free to not buy their merchandise, but let Yankees fans do what they want?”
If you’re autistic, I guess it is harder to distinguish genuine normative commitment claims from essentially tribal grunts which take the guise of normative commitment claims. My advice would be to err on the side of most things being the latter (or “prior of 0.75” as you people like to say)
I value the utility of detailed docs that provide far more information into a person’s psyche than simple one-liners. People who are open enough to write them, myself included, tend to be rather self-aware and forthcoming about strengths and areas that need improvement.
Another important point -- given potential value lock-in, we wouldn't want to lock in a dating docless society for millennia to come :).
Ours is the era of inadequate dating doc theory. Any other facts about this era are relatively unimportant.
Couldn’t agree more! A date me doc-less society would be one in which we have squandered the majority of humanity’s long run potential.
The longtermist case for dating docs.
There’s nothing moral or moralising going on here, it’s just boring tribe/mate-value signalling (specifically, the non-autists are seeing the autists do an autistic thing to find partners, and they’re loudly yelling “god I’d never fuck an autist” for the usual reasons).
And, like, yeah — I guess you could say “hey, if you’re not autistic just ignore it and let the autists do their thing?” — but it’s a bit like hearing a Red Sox fan say “God, Yankees cap, cringe” and telling her “If you don’t like the Yankees you’re free to not buy their merchandise, but let Yankees fans do what they want?”
If you’re autistic, I guess it is harder to distinguish genuine normative commitment claims from essentially tribal grunts which take the guise of normative commitment claims. My advice would be to err on the side of most things being the latter (or “prior of 0.75” as you people like to say)
I'm planning to add this capability to datingrefinery.com (social media/blog site on dating & relationships) Stop by and check them out.
I value the utility of detailed docs that provide far more information into a person’s psyche than simple one-liners. People who are open enough to write them, myself included, tend to be rather self-aware and forthcoming about strengths and areas that need improvement.